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The Trap of the Extraordinary

Sahil Bloom

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A few weeks ago, I came across a poem that I haven’t been able to get off my mind.

Do Not Ask Your Children to Strive by William Martin

Do not ask your children
to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may be admirable,
but it is the way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder
and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting
tomatoes, apples, and pears.
Show them how to cry
when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure
in the touch of a hand.

And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.

While framed around parenting and one’s relationship with their children, the poem revealed an alternative meaning for me—in particular, it highlighted a common trap faced by ambitious people (like all of you!).

A trap that's all too easy to fall into if you aren't aware of it...

Achievement as Success

We live in a culture that endlessly promotes and celebrates the achievement of the extraordinary—of those who accomplished some supreme feat in a single, narrow domain.

We label them "winners" and hold them up as the exemplars of a life well lived.

The Scoreboard Principle says that metrics motivate. The quantification of progress for all to see pushes participants to improve their score. Money is the typical metric on which the extraordinary is measured. Millionaire status is no longer special, but billionaire status puts you in this rare, extraordinary air. The Cultural Scoreboard is printed and reprinted in newspapers, magazines, and articles around the world.

But there's a trap hidden in plain sight...

Bill Watterson, the cartoonist most famous for his wildly successful Calvin and Hobbes comic strip, once delivered a commencement speech that contained a sharp rebuke of these cultural settings:

“In a culture that relentlessly promotes avarice and excess as the good life, a person happy doing his own work is usually considered an eccentric, if not a subversive. Ambition is only understood if it’s to rise to the top of some imaginary ladder of success. Someone who takes an undemanding job because it affords [them] the time to pursue other interests and activities is considered a flake. A person who abandons a career in order to stay home and raise children is considered not to be living up to [their] potential—as if a job title and salary are the sole measure of human worth."

The Trap of the Extraordinary, as I will call it, is that we conflate success with the achievement of the extraordinary.

In this simple model:

  • Winners are those who achieve the extraordinary.
  • Losers are those who fail to achieve the extraordinary.

Think back to your own life experience—I'm willing to bet this model generally checks out.

  • Scenario A: You set some ambitious goal for yourself. You put in the work, executing the necessary daily effort in a focused, disciplined manner. You achieve the ambitious goal. You feel like a winner!
  • Scenario B: You set some ambitious goal for yourself. You put in the work, executing the necessary daily effort in a focused, disciplined manner. You fail to achieve the ambitious goal. You feel like a loser.

The problem: You're damned in both scenarios.

You either (a) achieve the goal, feel like a winner for a moment, and then feel unfulfilled by the lack of another goal on the horizon, or (b) fail to achieve the goal, and feel like a loser for having failed.

The problem, as I see it, is in defining success based upon the extraordinary achievement rather than the ordinary journey to reach it. We cannot change the cultural definition, but we can change our internal definition.

To escape the trap, we need to make the ordinary come alive.

Make the Ordinary Come Alive

The poem's final two lines bear repeating:

And make the ordinary come alive for them.

The extraordinary will take care of itself.

The two mindset shifts I find myself focusing on to escape the trap:

  1. It’s not about achieving the extraordinary, it's about finding purpose, joy, and fulfillment in the ordinary along the way.
  2. The prize is not the achievement you strive for, but the striving itself.

This is about dislocating your happiness from any "ends" you're trying to reach. It's about avoiding the "when, then" psychology that says "when I get [X], then I'll be happy."

Make the ordinary come alive and the extraordinary will take care of itself.

Action for You: In the coming week, each evening, write down one "ordinary" thing that came alive for you during the day. Pause and appreciate the mundane beauty that you are slowing down to enjoy. At the end of the week, reflect on the list. Congratulations—you're starting to escape the trap!

The Trap of the Extraordinary

Sahil Bloom

Welcome to the 242 new members of the curiosity tribe who have joined us since Wednesday. Join the 57,887 others who are receiving high-signal, curiosity-inducing content every single week.

What’s a Rich Text element?

The rich text element allows you to create and format headings, paragraphs, blockquotes, images, and video all in one place instead of having to add and format them individually. Just double-click and easily create content.

Static and dynamic content editing

A rich text element can be used with static or dynamic content. For static content,

just drop it into any page and begin editing. For dynamic content, add a rich text field to any collection and then connect a rich text element to that field in the settings panel. Voila!

  • mldsa
  • ,l;cd
  • mkclds

How to customize formatting for each rich text

Headings, paragraphs, blockquotes, figures, images, and figure captions can all be styled after a class is added to the rich text element using the "When inside of"

nested selector

system.

A few weeks ago, I came across a poem that I haven’t been able to get off my mind.

Do Not Ask Your Children to Strive by William Martin

Do not ask your children
to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may be admirable,
but it is the way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder
and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting
tomatoes, apples, and pears.
Show them how to cry
when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure
in the touch of a hand.

And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.

While framed around parenting and one’s relationship with their children, the poem revealed an alternative meaning for me—in particular, it highlighted a common trap faced by ambitious people (like all of you!).

A trap that's all too easy to fall into if you aren't aware of it...

Achievement as Success

We live in a culture that endlessly promotes and celebrates the achievement of the extraordinary—of those who accomplished some supreme feat in a single, narrow domain.

We label them "winners" and hold them up as the exemplars of a life well lived.

The Scoreboard Principle says that metrics motivate. The quantification of progress for all to see pushes participants to improve their score. Money is the typical metric on which the extraordinary is measured. Millionaire status is no longer special, but billionaire status puts you in this rare, extraordinary air. The Cultural Scoreboard is printed and reprinted in newspapers, magazines, and articles around the world.

But there's a trap hidden in plain sight...

Bill Watterson, the cartoonist most famous for his wildly successful Calvin and Hobbes comic strip, once delivered a commencement speech that contained a sharp rebuke of these cultural settings:

“In a culture that relentlessly promotes avarice and excess as the good life, a person happy doing his own work is usually considered an eccentric, if not a subversive. Ambition is only understood if it’s to rise to the top of some imaginary ladder of success. Someone who takes an undemanding job because it affords [them] the time to pursue other interests and activities is considered a flake. A person who abandons a career in order to stay home and raise children is considered not to be living up to [their] potential—as if a job title and salary are the sole measure of human worth."

The Trap of the Extraordinary, as I will call it, is that we conflate success with the achievement of the extraordinary.

In this simple model:

  • Winners are those who achieve the extraordinary.
  • Losers are those who fail to achieve the extraordinary.

Think back to your own life experience—I'm willing to bet this model generally checks out.

  • Scenario A: You set some ambitious goal for yourself. You put in the work, executing the necessary daily effort in a focused, disciplined manner. You achieve the ambitious goal. You feel like a winner!
  • Scenario B: You set some ambitious goal for yourself. You put in the work, executing the necessary daily effort in a focused, disciplined manner. You fail to achieve the ambitious goal. You feel like a loser.

The problem: You're damned in both scenarios.

You either (a) achieve the goal, feel like a winner for a moment, and then feel unfulfilled by the lack of another goal on the horizon, or (b) fail to achieve the goal, and feel like a loser for having failed.

The problem, as I see it, is in defining success based upon the extraordinary achievement rather than the ordinary journey to reach it. We cannot change the cultural definition, but we can change our internal definition.

To escape the trap, we need to make the ordinary come alive.

Make the Ordinary Come Alive

The poem's final two lines bear repeating:

And make the ordinary come alive for them.

The extraordinary will take care of itself.

The two mindset shifts I find myself focusing on to escape the trap:

  1. It’s not about achieving the extraordinary, it's about finding purpose, joy, and fulfillment in the ordinary along the way.
  2. The prize is not the achievement you strive for, but the striving itself.

This is about dislocating your happiness from any "ends" you're trying to reach. It's about avoiding the "when, then" psychology that says "when I get [X], then I'll be happy."

Make the ordinary come alive and the extraordinary will take care of itself.

Action for You: In the coming week, each evening, write down one "ordinary" thing that came alive for you during the day. Pause and appreciate the mundane beauty that you are slowing down to enjoy. At the end of the week, reflect on the list. Congratulations—you're starting to escape the trap!